Stranded on an island? What do you do? Do you give up and let yourself die or do you change, adapt and survive?
Imagine your life being a boat sailing in a big ocean. There are predators, friendly beings, food, water, changes in weather, changes in tide and sometimes huge waves that can knock you down.
What do you do if a wave does come crashing down on you and you become damaged? Do you allow predators to come eat you alive? Do you let friendly ocean creatures guide you to land? Do you use whatever resources you have to survive?
Let’s say that you do find your way onto a deserted island. Do you give up and die waiting for someone to come to your rescue or do you adapt to your new surroundings and survive?
Life is full of surprises. There will be times that your life can change in an instant. What really counts in that situation is how you handle it. There are resources all around to use. It is okay to take advantage of those resources.
Whether it be a friend, therapist, family member or even a caring stranger, seek guidance or just someone to vent to if needed. You’d be surprised how after letting out what you have bottled up inside you feel like a weight has been lifted.
That is why I started guidanceforyou.org. I want to create a place where people can listen, learn, share and get help surviving after a storm or after being stranded on an island all alone.
Sometimes people just need someone else to vent to. Guidance for You provides friends just for that. Sometimes people want advice without the tainted views from friends, co-workers or family members. Some Guidance for You friends will have been where you are and can help guide you through whatever you’re going through.
Consider surviving. Consider living. Give yourself the chance you deserve to live a better life and enjoy every moment. It is possible because anything is possible.
It’s all your fault. You shouldn’t of said that. You should of just left. You did this. You made me hit you. You liked it. You enjoyed the pain I gave you. If you didn’t then why didn’t you leave?
The words of an abuser are never taking the blame but pointing in the direction of the victim. Once you realize you will never win the battle, you finally realize that the abuser is the one who should take the blame. You need to leave and never go back.
You have to heal or you will spiral down a deep dark hole and never return. Understand that you survived. Understand that you don’t need to be a victim anymore but a victor. You win the battle when you decide to finally dictate your life. Don’t let the abuser get back in or it will never stop.
Take a stand and stay strong. When you have nothing to lose you have everything to gain. Don’t forget the rainbow that comes after the rain. You are magnificent you are special. Don’t let anyone tell you other.
Healing is patient healing is slow
Take time and let start to let go
Memories sneak up and scare
Embrace them and say a little prayer
Stay strong and stay hopeful
Don’t be weak and don’t be woeful
Expel the ones hindering your path
Don’t allow yourself to feel the wrath
Hearts break hearts heal
You’re still here breathing what’s the big deal?
In the end it is only you
Remembering this will help you get through
Humans are creatures of habit. Changing seems to overwhelming for many. Even when we know something is bad for us we continue to indulge in the worst of behaviors.
Letting go can be one of the hardest things to do. I was in a relationship for almost nine years and got married to that person less than two months ago. I just today I realized that this is not what I REALLY want.
What I went through during those nine years was happiness, joy, pain, sorrow and many other conflicting feelings. As the years went by I got USED to the craziness. I got used to this person who I loved but was not in love with. I endured a lot and thought that if we got married that maybe things would change for the better but what I really found out is that I just couldn’t let go.
After an argument just like all the ones before, it hit me. I HAVE to let go. Some people are in your life for a reason and a season. The reason was to teach me what I should not accept in a relationship. The reason was to give me the knowledge to guide others who are in the same situation and don’t know what to do.
The second I chose to let go, as I write this now, I feel like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I will miss him but I will NOT miss what I was used to. With every ending is a new beginning. It may be the end of my relationship with that person but it is not the end of my road. I have traveled far and still have much further to travel.
Your life is a never-ending road. You meet people along the way. You get into accidents. You take detours. You stop and rest. But staying in one place on that road just stops you from experiencing what is to come. If your partner doesn’t want to travel with you on your road you need to let go and move on.
Letting go is important in many other aspects of life too. Don’t get caught in a pothole or ditch because you will die waiting to get pulled out. Get out and keep going. Life WILL go on with or without you. Letting go doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Letting go is just leaving what once was behind and continuing on your journey in life.
For a long time I looked at all the hard times I went through as wearing me down. Like sandpaper on wood non-stop. The more I was sanded the thinner I became. It took me many years to realize that I wasn’t being thinned but instead I was being finished. I was being made into a beautiful work of art.
Hard times can be tiring and trying but it is how you perceive those times and utilize them. The fact that you are still here today is enough to prove that you made it through. You survived what you thought you couldn’t.
Healing from those experiences can be difficult but not impossible. Even I still have days when I feel like no one is on my side and I will never get better but those feelings pass. I have to see that I HAVE gotten better because if I wasn’t getting better I would not be doing the things I am doing now.
I was watching a show about a girl who survived getting raped and almost killed. She said that someone told her, “Your pain will become your purpose.” She chose to go to school for psychology because her purpose was to use the pain she went through to help others get through the same pain. That is what I want to do. I want to use my pain as my purpose to help others see that there is always room for healing.
You may feel worn down and hopeless at times but during those times you just need to stop what you’re doing. Just take a moment to yourself and relax. Take a nap even, I know that helps me. You come first. You need to remember that even though horrible things may have happened to you, those things will NOT control you and will NOT win. You had the power to survive during those times so you definitely have the power to survive after those times. Never ever give up on yourself.