Stranded on an Island?

Stranded on an island? What do you do? Do you give up and let yourself die or do you change, adapt and survive?

Imagine your life being a boat sailing in a big ocean. There are predators, friendly beings, food, water, changes in weather, changes in tide and sometimes huge waves that can knock you down.

What do you do if a wave does come crashing down on you and you become damaged? Do you allow predators to come eat you alive? Do you let friendly ocean creatures guide you to land? Do you use whatever resources you have to survive?

Let’s say that you do find your way onto a deserted island. Do you give up and die waiting for someone to come to your rescue or do you adapt to your new surroundings and survive?

Life is full of surprises. There will be times that your life can change in an instant. What really counts in that situation is how you handle it. There are resources all around to use. It is okay to take advantage of those resources.

Whether it be a friend, therapist, family member or even a caring stranger, seek guidance or just someone to vent to if needed. You’d be surprised how after letting out what you have bottled up inside you feel like a weight has been lifted.

That is why I started guidanceforyou.org. I want to create a place where people can listen, learn, share and get help surviving after a storm or after being stranded on an island all alone.

Sometimes people just need someone else to vent to. Guidance for You provides friends just for that. Sometimes people want advice without the tainted views from friends, co-workers or family members. Some Guidance for You friends will have been where you are and can help guide you through whatever you’re going through.

Consider surviving. Consider living. Give yourself the chance you deserve to live a better life and enjoy every moment. It is possible because anything is possible.

 

Letting Go

Humans are creatures of habit. Changing seems to overwhelming for many. Even when we know something is bad for us we continue to indulge in the worst of behaviors.

Letting go can be one of the hardest things to do. I was in a relationship for almost nine years and got married to that person less than two months ago. I just today I realized that this is not what I REALLY want.

What I went through during those nine years was happiness, joy, pain, sorrow and many other conflicting feelings. As the years went by I got USED to the craziness. I got used to this person who I loved but was not in love with. I endured a lot and thought that if we got married that maybe things would change for the better but what I really found out is that I just couldn’t let go.

After an argument just like all the ones before, it hit me. I HAVE to let go. Some people are in your life for a reason and a season. The reason was to teach me what I should not accept in a relationship. The reason was to give me the knowledge to guide others who are in the same situation and don’t know what to do.

The second I chose to let go, as I write this now, I feel like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I will miss him but I will NOT miss what I was used to. With every ending is a new beginning. It may be the end of my relationship with that person but it is not the end of my road. I have traveled far and still have much further to travel.

Your life is a never-ending road. You meet people along the way. You get into accidents. You take detours. You stop and rest. But staying in one place on that road just stops you from experiencing what is to come. If your partner doesn’t want to travel with you on your road you need to let go and move on.

Letting go is important in many other aspects of life too. Don’t get caught in a pothole or ditch because you will die waiting to get pulled out. Get out and keep going. Life WILL go on with or without you. Letting go doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Letting go is just leaving what once was behind and continuing on your journey in life.

Being Alone Without Being Lonely

I like to be alone but I am not lonely. I am married and have two kids but I still desire to be alone. I cherish the moments when I have the house to myself.

Growing up we always moved because my dad was in the military so sometimes it would be a while before I made new friends. My brother had Asperger’s Syndrome so he wasn’t always easy to play with therefore I played by myself a lot.

When I did make friends I usually had one or two close ones that I spent all of my time with. After high school I chose a destructive path and ended up losing any friends I did have. It didn’t really make me sad though because I was so used to leaving people anyway.

For a while drugs became my friend. I could always count on them to make me feel good and they never caused any drama. I am now drug free and still I do not have any friends.

I could make friends but most women I meet have sisters and other friends that they choose to spend time with. On top of that most women I meet seem to always want to talk about things I have no interest in or their lives are always full of drama.

I think I would be happy to move in the middle of nowhere on a farm where I could grow a garden, take care of animals and just enjoy the simple things that life has to offer. I could watch the sunrise and sunset. I could stare at the stars at night with just the sound of crickets in the background.

My husband doesn’t quite understand why I am like that because he has a big family with lots of cousins and friends. I did not know my cousins growing up and never got to grow up with friends so we do not see eye to eye on that.

My husband thinks I should try to make friends but I just do not want to. I enjoy solitude. I work at home online so I don’t have to socialize with co-workers. I am not sure why I am so comfortable with being alone but I just am.

Is there something wrong with me or is it that I am just content with being by myself? The internet does give me the opportunity to have some interactions with others which is nice because I can end my interactions without it being awkward.

Will I ever change? I don’t know but for now I am okay with being alone because I never feel lonely.

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